|what's not to love?|
Okay then, I thought, I'm a clever mother. I'll buy another one as a spare.
I contacted the Etsy seller who made the original Cocoa and she whipped up another.
I hadn't originally intended on showing Clem the second bunny but somehow it happened. They wouldn't both get lost at once, right?
At first he was thrilled to have two Cocoas.
|he called them Mummy Cocoa and Baby Cocoa|
Before I knew it, the Cocoas had been abandoned.
|when I looked for the Cocoas today, they were at the bottom of this pile|
With the best of intentions, I was trying to shelter my child from the reality that beloved things sometimes get lost (broken/wear out/die).
What I actually did was devalue the currency of the original Cocoa.
And teach my child that precious things are replaceable.
I kind of felt it at the time, but reading this book has really crystallised it for me. I mentioned it in my decluttering post. It's been better than I ever expected.
Between this and my decluttering book, I've become determined to strip back the toys and possessions and options available to my children.
Ever since the first deluge of awful cheap plastic toys with our first child, I've been aware that our kids have become surrounded by so many toys that they are overwhelmed and barely play with any at all.
The book above goes further to say that this applies to many areas of life: our kids have so much choice surrounding them: books, toys, clothes, food... they are overloaded and will tend to default to the easiest or 'loudest' choice available.
Rather than confront the heaping mass of toys, they switch on the TV.
Rather than enjoy a simple potato, they are drawn to bright sweets and crazy, overflavoured snacks because they demand attention from the crowd of options.
Some children are able to filter the options better than others. I can see that in my own boys. Jasper, shall we say, could use a large amount of pre-filtering to shut out the 'noise' that distracts him. Clem, right now, is whining at me "I want to go on the compuuuuuuuterrrrrr". He's three and a half. I don't want that.
This book has so many constructive ideas on how to remedy these situations, that will suit all sorts of families. There has not been one moment when I have wanted to shout "shut up you smug hippy!" and throw the book away, like I suspected I might.
I have work to do. There might not be much sewing for a little while. But it's good to have a plan.
Oh and Clem has another favourite bunny in his life. He's had her since he was a baby. The one. And only. Never to be replaced.
- Jane x